Love & Respect...

Women want their cake and eat it too. I think Leesa had a post or something about how that saying makes no sense. I mean if I get some cake of course I want to eat it too! But I digress.

It's either women want it all, or you have no idea what a good man is, or you just don't know how to treat a good one once you find him. Take your pick. I read Cool's blog last week and I knew this post would have to come sooner or later because the world needs my help on this subject. When it comes to men women want a finished product. It's never going to happen.

Never.

As I read these blogs or even in my conversations women can find literally hundred of things wrong with their man and men in general. You want a man that doesn't neglect you for his boys and yet when you get someone like that then he's too clingy. You want a man to have goals in life and a job but if he spends, what you deem as too much time, working then you find you somebody who will "appreciate" you and spend time with you. That is until you realize that he's a bum who's just living off you. It's a ridiculous cycle.

I've heard women complain about all kinds of things.He's a mama's boy. He has bad credit. He's too short. I don't like the way he dresses. Or some of the one's I've personally heard. You're too conceited. You're self centered. You had sex with my roommate. Your johnson is too big. Get the point? How many good men have you let walk away because you're too superficial?! That mama's boy has been trained how to treat women. He may still talk to his mom a lot but he has valuable information about women that you could benefit from. The guy with bad credit could be a man who because of past mistakes is quite adept at handling money. The short guy or the guy that dresses funny could be your "soulmate". We'll ignore my personal faults because we all agree that I am a jackass.

Since TTD has become a Loyal Subject she has talked quite a bit about her "husband". She talks about him in such a glowing fashion that I want to date the guy! You could chalk it up to young love or whatever but most guys will tell you that when a woman praises them and strokes their ego they want to be around her. It is a woman they want to make happy. Does this mean TTD doesn't see his faults? Quite the contrary. She probably knows his faults better than anyone. But she chooses to accentuate the positive and that will only help to continue the growth of their relationship. And it has to be in moderation. Don't overdue it to the point that he feels that you're obsessed with him.

Ok I feel like I'm rambling. Here's the point. Be prepared to grow with your mate and allow them to make mistakes and to grow as an individual. Encourage and embolden them to be a better person. Harping on his or her mistakes or shortcomings is only going to land them in someone else's bed. Love & respect go a long way in creating a happy relationship.

If you treat a man like a man and believe he will give the world to you then in most cases he will do his best to do it. So stop comparing your man to the next one and build a beautiful relationship with the man you have or the next one you get.