Obsessed with the Down Low Brother! (FOR YOU T.M.)
What's up everybody. I have recently been talking to one of my closer female friends and my most loyal reader might I add and I am forced to write about this so called phenomenon of "the down low brother". Yeah I know it sucks (no pun intended) but I have to give my readers what they want.
So what angle do I take on this subject? A subject, might I add, that I don't feel all that comfortable writing about. No not because I'm uncomfortable with my own sexuality but simply because this is a issue that I will never....EVER have to deal with. You see I'm not a woman who is going to get tricked by a bi-sexual man nor am I a gay man! So, you ask, why am I wasting your time babbling? Good question. Here's why.
Is the constant coverage of this subject tilted in the media to only include black men? Well of course it is! It is a salacious distraction from other issues affecting the black community, such as unemployment, homophobia and a lack of economic empowerment. Some observers have criticized the media coverage, saying it unfairly characterizes the phenomenon as occurring only among black men and often inappropriately links the phenomenon with statistics about the increasing number of AIDS cases in the black community. As a result, many black women have gone on witch hunts to determine whether the men in their lives are secretly gay and people of other races have wrongly assumed that the phenomenon does not apply to them.
I highlighted that part of the sentence because my friend it seems to me is constantly trying to catch her male friends "being gay"! It's hilarious and sad all at the same time. Funny for the obvious reasons and sad because of instead of focusing on important issues such as AIDS we have instead demonized the black man and in turn created a "boogeyman" for black women without proper context. Holla back.
2 comments:
If you want to call it an obsession than that's cool. I think we should be obsessived with making sure our partners are who they say they are. If there weren't so many men (notice I didn't say black men) out here hiding who they truly are then there wouldn't be a need for women to be paranoid nor obsessed.
LAdies do a vigorous background check before you start dating any man. think twice if he's been in the system for most of his life, get him tested, 3 times before you get serious and if he doesn't want to, leave him alone, he's got stuff to hide. If he can't be open about his past (because the past can affect the future soemtimes), cool things off with him. I mean, it's not like he has to tell you every gory detail, but the important things like ...I"M BI_SEXUAL or I USE TO DIG OTHER GUYS....that's as important as I have kids and I've been married before. Find out what he went to the bog house for, cuz you might be his next victim if you don't. But people do change and if your gutt tells you to leave him alone anyway, follow you gutt feelings. MEN, Be honest, dont take lives; AIDS pops up regardless of how much you've change on the inside, if you been freaky with other dudes in the past let the girl know.dont make your relationship be based on a lie.
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